It is important to start out with effective affirmations, so they support and charge your manifestation work, rather than inhibit it.
What Are Affirmations?
Affirmations are declarations. We are stating observations about ourselves, others and the world. They do not describe how we would choose for ourselves and the world to be, they describe ourselves and the world as already being how we would choose them to be!
This is a subtle, yet important distinction.
Two, or More, ‘Already Trues’
We may need to hold two paradoxical observations in our consciousness simultaneously.
For example, we may at first need to hold the following two truths and open our minds enough to see them both as simultaneously true:
- “I feel insecure, anxious and frightened by social situations”
- “I feel secure, confident and delighted in social situations”
If we deny the negative truth and pretend only the positive truth is true, the one we deny (or resist) can become more persistent.
We do not always consider the possibility of having two (or more) selves. Two or more realities and truths
Even for someone who has objectively high social anxiety, it is very rare to be anxious in every single social situation, with all people. There are nearly always exceptions, where we feel secure and confident. So for most people, there are already two, or more already trues. The difference is that these exceptions may not have been part of the story we tell others and ourselves.
Learn more about how hypnotherapy can help with anxiety.
When Crafting Your Affirmation
- Create your affirmations intuitively. Ask yourself what would really bring you fulfilment.
- Design it to help you feel something you want to feel (“acceptance”, “fulfilment”, “gratitude”, “love”, for example). If the affirmations are what you enter into the satnav, the emotions are the fuel that gets you there.
- Design it so that it sparks your emotion and imagination to see, hear and feel yourself having accomplished it
- Design it so that what you affirm can be seen as true every day that you affirm it, as well as the day that you have accomplished it. Are you already a millionaire? If not, would you affirm, that: “you are a millionaire”, or “you have the abundant mindset of a millionaire”?
- Speak in the present tense (“you accept”, rather than “you will accept”). You are creating the conditions of your desired outcome here and now.
- Refer to yourself in the second person, as “you”, not “I” (“you joyfully help others live fulfilled lives”, rather than “I joyfully help others live fulfilled lives”). Imagine telling yourself “I love me” and see how it feels. Now imagine someone else telling you “I love you”. Which is likely to have more impact? We tend to believe and take seriously positive messages from others over ourselves.
- Keep it simple. Aim for somewhere between 1 and 25 words. As you become more adept at the manifesting process you can try adding more complexity and see how it works for you.
- Imperfect affirmations are perfect! Just get going with something that is good enough. If there are improvements to make they will come to you as you progress.
Begin Crafting Your Affirmation
Here is an affirmation that works for me. If you are unsure where to begin, you can take this and make it your own:
“You joyfully help others live fulfilling and satisfying lives”.
“You graciously accept the abundance that, hence, cascades into and flows through your life”.
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Do You Want to Start Manifesting?
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- Nine Elements For Successful Manifestation Alchemy (TALK)
- Seven Prompts To Manifest Affirmations And Visualizations (MEDITATION)
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